I am currently a fourth year doctoral student pursing a PhD in Counseling Psychology. My areas of emphasis include multiculturalism, feminism, underserved populations, trauma recovery, and statistics and research. I know that last one comes as a bit of a shock from the others, but I am a true stats nerd down to the bone. My areas of research focus mostly on trauma, post-traumatic stress disorder, men’s violence against women. Other areas of interest include theoretical approaches to psychotherapy, evidence based psychotherapy, and third wave behavioral strategies. In addition to being a full time graduate student, I work full time as a statistics and research consultant for the university I attend as well as through a private firm. In what little free time I find myself with, I enjoy watching a variety of trashy reality TV shows, shopping for pointy boots, and attempting to have some kind of social life.

Television

Television

One week before the start of the new semester and a new clinical rotation, I moved, which is not something I would recommend to any student, but especially a grad student. It has since been nearly 4 months since the move, and I finally did it; I finally got cable installed. It has been on my to do list since the day I first got my keys, but my full time graduate student with three jobs schedule did not have a free four hour block that I could be home. Lucky for me, I happened to come down with the flu and had nothing better to do, so I called the cable company, and after a ridiculously large deposit, I was all set up to have my cable installed.

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4 Secrets to "Doing it All"

4 Secrets to "Doing it All"

I often get asked the question, “How do you do it all?” I must admit that between being a full time doctoral student with three jobs and a clinical rotation keeps me pretty busy, and there are days where even I have no idea how I do all that it is I do. I have learned a thing or two about multitasking and time management, so I thought I would pass on some of helpful tips that help me get through each day.

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zmirtsching
I like your four lessons. However I find it hard to think I should bring my work with me everywhere. Aren't there supposed to be... Read More
Thursday, 01 August 2013 12:28
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Saying No

Saying No

As a therapist in training, I have noticed that a lot of people struggle with saying no. When working with clients, I often talk about the short term gain and long term pain associated with not saying no. In the moment, it is often easier to say no because it avoids the discomfort of confrontation and the guilt many people feel when they turn someone down. In the long run, however, not saying no often creates additional burdens and can lead to feelings of resentment.

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Single Father

Single Father

I have a confession. A secret that I have kept from almost everyone. I am a single father.

Sometimes, I am up at 2:00 AM giving all of myself to care for this little thing that came into the world through me. Something so small, yet so large to me. This little thing came from me, my blood, my legacy, my heir.

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zmirtsching
Funny! I thought it was a real baby until the very end.
Wednesday, 19 June 2013 14:24
JohnM
Oh trust me, my CV does take up as much time as a baby. I have no idea how people go through graduate school while raising real c... Read More
Wednesday, 03 July 2013 12:42
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Sick

Sick

I’m sick…I have the flu.  Okay, well, I don’t anymore, but a week ago I did. 
My mind automatically wonders back to a conversation I had a few weeks back with my clinical supervisor…

“You know, John, the hospital provides free flu shots for everyone who sees patients here.”
“You know, I haven’t had the flu since I was 9 years old; I think I’ll be fine.”
“You’ve never worked in a hospita."

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JJackson
Sorry to hear that you were sick over the holidays! I was too. Fortunately, I have a great job and didn't miss too much work; I ... Read More
Wednesday, 02 January 2013 21:58
JohnM
Thank you for your kind words. Here is the sad reality about graduate school (at least for me) - you are always behind. There is... Read More
Friday, 04 January 2013 14:24
sarabrady
Sounds like you had it bad!! I remember being sick (not as bad as you), and I still had to run an experiment. If I didn't run the ... Read More
Friday, 11 January 2013 14:49
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Giving Thanks

Giving Thanks

Today is Thanksgiving Day, and the first thing that I am thankful for is the fact that I had no alarm set and was able to sleep in until 8:15 am for the first time in over 6 months.  As I took a moment to really contemplate on what it means to be thankful I spent some time really reflecting on what it is exactly that I am thankful for.  Though it is easy to get caught up in the day to day drama of graduate school and fall into a pattern of pissing and moaning, today I did not focus on that.  Today I thought about all that I as a graduate student have to be thankful for.  This is what I came up with:

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Welcome to JohnM's Blog

Welcome to JohnM's Blog

Hello there, and welcome to my blog.  This focus of this blog is one of my favorite subjects in the world: me!  Well, not so much about just me, but my life and experiences as a graduate student.  But before I get too distracted with my experiences, I am going to take few moments to shamelessly, dare I say borderline narcissistically, talk about me.  I am 24 years old, and currently working on a PhD in Counseling Psychology.  Though at times this blog might sound like a cautionary tale against going to graduate school or a woe-is-me whine-fest, but I assure you that is not my intention. 

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EPFlaig
has graduate school gotten easier as you have gotten used to it or is it just as hard? what has gotten easier and what has gotten ... Read More
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JohnM
Hi EPFlaig. Thanks for your comment, and my I congratulate you on being the first to comment on my blog. That is a really good q... Read More
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